For Holcomb, 26, the change began five years ago when he was involved in a minor car accident. It got him thinking about his own mortality.\”The next day I [lay] down on my couch and the cable went out, the screen turned black and I was lying there without my shirt and I saw my stomach hanging over the side of the couch, and I broke down and I cried and I promised myself I would change. And from that day onward, I have changed for the better,\” he said.
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Success stories are great motivation. Now …
Go write your success story in advance. Seriously. Write out what a dramatic transformation is going to look like for you. Then — what do you need to do today to head in that direction? What needs to happen in the next week, next month? Keep your sights both on those immediate near term requirements, and also the long range success that’s about to occur for you.
It was only a smile, nothing more. It didn’t make everything all right. It didn’t make anything all right. Only a smile. A tiny thing. A leaf in the woods, shaking in the wake of a startled bird’s flight.
But I’ll take it. With open arms. Because when spring comes, it melts the snow one flake at a time, and maybe I just witnessed the first flake melting.
— The Kite Runner
Ever been to a stadium and seen the wave? Sometimes it goes round and round multiple times, with 50 or even 100,000 people participating. It’s a powerful thing to watch all those people do something in an artistically coordinated way.
And it all starts with one person standing up with their arms in the air. And the person next to them. And to them. Pretty soon that one person doing one pretty comical looking thing, becomes the wave.
If you’re just starting on a journey, it’s HARD. You have no momentum other than your will power, which is about to fail. But take heart. That stand you took today can be the beginning of the wave.
Life changes all the time. If you’re an adult, you already know this — the phone call comes, the letter arrives in the mail, the doctor sits you down for some bad news — and your life instantly changes.
If you were at your doctor’s office and they told you you have to have dialysis every day, starting today, or you would die, you would change instantly. Right then. Before you left their office you’d have already re-prioritized every other thing so that you were going to dialysis. You certainly wouldn’t say, well I don’t actually have time for that, my dependents might have to adjust to something new, or I’m too busy at work. Nope. I don’t even know you and I’m sure you wouldn’t. You’d say, OK doc, set it up, I want to live.
And you certainly wouldn’t take 7 days or 21 days or 30 repetitions or whatever the latest life change book says it would take to form that dialysis habit. Nope, you’d form the habit right now, even before the first time you went.
We need to realize that POSITIVE change can happen just as instantly. Just like that instant decision to begin dialysis to save your life, you can choose the change that extends and brings fulfillment to your life. And once you decide to take the big leap into the future, the strength and ability to get there will come. God blesses moving targets. Courage comes to those who put themselves in a position to need it.
It all starts with deciding you’re done being the way you used to be, and you’re from this moment launching out into the way you were meant to be. And actually, change is going to come, and to a large degree you can choose now whether the doctor will have to tell you you’re going to die if you don’t change, or whether that doctor uses you as a stellar example of someone who changed. I have been on both sides of that, and the latter is thousands of times better and worth it, no matter what. Choose to live.
Friday again. Time for some motivation to be fit.
But Tim — I’m not a puppy anymore. I ache. I hurt. I can’t run fast or far, and I can’t lift much weight.
Here’s the lowdown. People in their 60’s can triple the amount they can lift, in 6 weeks. People in their 80’s can regain range of motion they previously thought was lost. Persistent pain can be reduced dramatically.
Use what you have. Do what you CAN do; what you CAN’T do can come later. You may start with really seemingly small steps. Walking in water, water aerobics, strolling with a friend — you choose what you can do, and will do, and start where you can. Do today what you can do again tomorrow, then tomorrow do it again, plus just 1% more. Did you know — if you improve 1% per day, you’ll be 100% improved in not 100 days, but due to the value of compound interest, you’ll be 100% better in only 70 days. That’s exciting.
Never compare yourself to anyone other than the more sluggish, larger, slower person you were yesterday. That’s all that really matters, your own improvement over what you used to be able to do. Where are you now, vs. where you would be if your life had not changed inherently for the better.
You may know how this goes already — you have one or ten or twenty false starts on your weight loss, and then suddenly you wake up one morning or walk from one room to the other and you realize you’ve changed, you’re going forward invariably, and this is it for you — your new life has started.
What’s the difference? Before, you acted from will power. Mr. Will Power is the most fickle friend in the world. The first time you hit a major snag, you look around and he’s left you. Even if there’s been no trouble, he leaves after a few days or weeks of friendship.
He’s just no help at all.
But then you discover Free Will. This is the knowledge and conviction that you have all you need, between you and God, to actually want to do, and to carry out, the change you want to see in yourself. There’s a burst of motivation that goes on and on even in the really dark times when it looks like it’s going to take forever, and then you go on.
From there it’s all possible for you. So much so that I’d say, don’t even start trying to lose weight during the Will Power. Wait, plan, read, study, pray, meditate, plan some more, but wait for the willpower to be replaced by the resolve that comes from complete trust in your plans.
Ever know exactly what you need to do, but just don’t feel like doing it?
Here’s what that means. You have a theoretical need but you don’t have enough want, to make it worth the effort to move on it.
I love encouragement. I love being cheered for, prayed for, and supported. But I had to get to the point where I wanted what I wanted, for me, irrespective of anyone else. Wanted it so much I was willing to sacrifice, as needed, to get there.
It’s powerful stuff.