Ever find yourself intentionally refusing to do something or even think about it? Intentionally hiding that whole topic away. We have a thing at my house — whenever someone wants to imitate my way of wanting to talk about happy things when times are hard, invariably someone will poke their fingers in their ears so they can’t see, and shout, “fluffy bunnies! fluffy bunnies!” meaning — dad is checking out of the real issue and going off into his own fluffy little world where nothing has hard edges.
There is no fluffy bunny world. Life is hard. Once you realize that it is always hard, life is not as hard anymore. Do the hard things. Whatever it is you need to do, I promise the situation MAY improve if you ignore it, but it WILL improve if you face it.